January 1st is the day that all new year resolutions start… and end.
That’s right, we wait all year for that particular date to come around to write a list of all the things we are going to change for the forthcoming year just to slide back into old habits after the new year hype dies down.
It’s even become popular for people to mock New Year’s resolutions in an almost laughable way. Whether it’s the new flock of “fake” gym members trying out their new gym gear that they will never wear again or the one’s that claim their gonna drink less while drunk, its something that just never works out, but why?
- Lose Weight and Get Fit
- Eat Healthier
- Quit Smoking
- Drink Less
- Be Less Stressed
- Get Out of Debt and Save Money
- Spend More Time with Family
- Try New Things
- Be More Organised
So why don’t they work? Here’s my thoughts…
- They’re unspecific – we just say: “I’m going to drink less” but how much is less? Does drinking less mean only drinking once a month or drinking just at the weekends. Specify.
- You aren’t willing to give anything up to achieve it – We always say: “I want to get fit and go the gym more” but that unfortunately means giving up things we like in order to reach our goal such as ‘chill time’ or our ‘new favorite TV show”. You know what they say – no pain, no gain.
- They’re unrealistic – Another thing we say is: “I’m going to go the gym for two hours, five times a week” and we know even before trying that its almost impossible. Instead, try keeping it to as simple as 2-3 times a week for 30 minutes to an hour, and if you have more time then stay longer or go more days, be reasonable.
- They’re habits – We forget that we are trying to brake habits and make new ones. The average time it takes to make new habits is 3 weeks, that means the people who give up within the first 2 weeks because it got too hard, are because their not used to it and just need more time.
- Haven’t prepared or suggested solutions – It’s easy to say “I want to eat healthier” without actually preparing or planning to eat healthy. Plan solutions of what went wrong last January, was it all the sweets and chocolate in the house calling your name? Prepare in advance, make sure all the naughty foods are ate before January 1st and the fridge is stocked up with a load of meat and veggies. And if you wanna be extra prepared make a food diary or a food plan for the following week ahead.
After years of the same failed resolutions, we still set yet another one because we know no different, saying things like “Ok, this year I’m going to buckle down”, “This year will be different” despite already knowing in the back of our heads the doomed failure we are letting ourselves into, so why not change your changes?
Happy 2016, let it be a good’en!